I try not to give energy to my fears but for this article I’ll let you in on two of my biggest ones; failure and settling. I currently commute to work about an hour by train and an hour back. The morning trains are stuffy and the body heat becomes suffocating. Everyone in the train wears discontentment on their faces and conformity on their ties which is pulled up to the collar of their white shirt. I am a people watcher and I always look around intensely, although everyone else’s intention is to avoid eye contact with the person breathing on them. But I can’t help but stare at their faces and wonder, where did all their dreams go?
I don’t want to lead a regretful life because I am the Mater of my own boat, and at the end of time the Master of all ships would ask me how I navigated through the stormy seas. I don’t want to say I gave up and quit, I want to sing the tune of my battle cry. I believe life isn’t supposed to be so easy and clear cut, there are a lot of codes we need to unlock before we achieve access to our highest self.
Meditating/Praying: Prayer is my go-to, my secret weapon and my source of inspiration. As I grow more aware and weary of the world around me, I see the cracks between the lines that society feeds us. So it’s hard for me to put my life in man’s hands as opposed to God’s. No matter what God you believe in, acknowledging that there is a higher power above this collapsing world is a step towards achieve peace of mind. I also practice yoga and meditation which aids my quest to internal peace.
Daily Affirmations: “I am blessed, I am able, I am love and light.” Repeating affirmations like these in the morning can be a huge motivator. Claim the goals that you want to attain, speak it into existence, pray on it and it’s yours. By acknowledging daily, the magic within yourself, you would rise to become who you were meant to be. My bedroom wall is filled with motivational quotes and passages that inspire me, that way whenever I’m down I just read the beautiful messages on my wall.
Find your inner Fire & Desire: Discover what it is that you want from this life and be fearless enough to go after it without asking for anyone’s permission. Find something that sets your soul on fire and don’t let the harsh winds of the world blow out that light. People project their own fears onto you, so do not listen or take advice from negative people. Sometimes it may be difficult discovering what you want to be in life, but I think a good place to start is with the type of life you want to live and the type of life you don’t want to live.
Be the change you want to see: To see things shifting in your favour you must make a change. You must take responsibility for your actions and the consequences of them. You must realise that life is what you make it and nothing would change unless you do. I love the phrase “take what you deserve” but it is loaded and needs to be unpacked. This world doesn’t owe you anything and for a lot of us there isn’t a silver spoon or rich uncle that would bail us out of any financial trouble. So it does take a lot of soul searching, and solitary time to discover the difference you want to see in yourself.
Believe in Yourself: this may be an overused phrase, and as I writer I do avoid them but it has only evolved to be a cliché because of its truth. Acknowledge the power and strength that is within you. I like to do this by reciting the line, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Whenever it all gets too hefty I realise that God wouldn’t give me more than I can handle, and He has already aligned the stars I just need to work whilst I wait.
Don’t be afraid of hard work: Nothing is easy in this world, no matter the occupation you choose, you must put in the work. Let’s say the most glamourous and desired occupation we could think of is the life of a model, all you must do is take pretty pictures, right? Wrong. Models must shoot Summer issues in Winter, that means they stand outside in their bikinis in freezing weather. They are also constantly judged and measured by other girls, imagine what that does to their self-esteem. But know that nothing worth having comes easy. Sometimes is does take late nights but do take time to rest so you can sleep and dream, because all we have is our dreams.